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abitnotgood:

banjocourse:

abitnotgood:

sapphics:

it’s 2018 let’s stop pretending demisexuality isn’t… like… literally normal and extremely common

It’ll be “normal” and “common” when average people stop having one night stands, believing in love at first sight and every magazine stops telling couples they are only HEALTHY if they have sex frequently.

And you let me know when it’s no longer a common excuse to cheat on your partner when they “deny you” sex.

But that’s the thing, one night stands and believing in love at first sight aren’t ‘average’. It’s just a thing that some people do and experience. Those things are popular in mainstream media but that doesn’t mean that those things are average.

There are many people who don’t feel attracted to strangers, and only start feeling attraction when they get to know them. That’s super common! Let’s be real, people’s levels and frequencies of attraction to other people always vary, there is no ‘common’ or ‘normal’.

Still, if that is a label you wanna use, go ahead, but don’t pretend to be oppressed for it. It’s a common experience to feel alienated by society’s sexualisations of magazines and television, etc. That’s not oppression tho, and that’s also not a strictly 'demisexual’ experience.

I’m not looking for extra oppression, jfc. I’m already bipolar biracial and bisexual, not looking for anything else to add to this mess.

I identify, to myself mostly, as demisexual because it helped me realize i was not broken. i didn’t deserve all the cheating and lies i got over the years. I’m not weird for not seeing or understanding celebrity crushes. I’m not a freak for turning down dates and parties at clubs and bars. I’m not a bad person for being disinterested in sex with my partner. and it doesn’t mean i don’t love them or don’t find them attractive. I’m not mentally or physically ill for disliking the idea of reproduction. So what if we haven’t had sex for five years now but we’re talking about marriage? I’m finally happy!

I like the word, for myself, because it makes me feel NORMAL. That’s it.

exactly, thanks @abitnotgood. like no one is claiming that they’re special because they feel like a label applies to them. why should others get offended at what you call yourself?

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